You seem to be extrapolating that your experience must be everyone's experience. To be honest, your experience does seem to be common among Illustrator users. That's exactly why those resources I provided were created. But I would stress again, that Inkscape's goal is not to be a free Illustrator alternative. Inkscape's goal is to be a vector graphics editor which follows SVG standards. It doesn't really care how Illustrator works.
I came to Inkscape without any previous experience with any computer graphics program. I found it easy and fun to learn....up to a point, when I needed help. Then I found a friendly community who didn't hesitate to answer my questions. And to fluxrider's point, I found Inkscape to be incredibly complex. There are parts of Inkscape that are so complex and technical that even after 12 years I don't understand, and parts that I probably never will understand.
Were I to decide to shell out tons of money (well, it would be tons for me) and start using Illustrator, I could have the same complaints as you. Why does Illustrator work in this crazy way - it doesn't make any sense, when there is a much easier way to do these very basic things.
You might find it interesting to look at some other vector graphics editors too?