Welcome to the forum!
Looks like very fun and interesting projects! I'm not sure if I understand your questions, but I'll start with this.
What I am finding impossible to figure out is how to get my design shrunk a certain amount and be equal between all the edges of the main design multiple times (in my case even once...lol).
I'm not sure how many questions are in there, haha.
"shrunk by a certain amount" If you need to scale the entire image after your finished, select the whole thing, then scale. There are a few different ways to approach scaling. Using the Selection tool
you can grab any of the arrows, and while holding Ctrl and Shift, drag the arrow. However, it's hard to control that, if you need to scale either to a specific size or by a specific amount.
So for precision scaling, you can use Object menu > Transform > Scale
http://tavmjong.free.fr/INKSCAPE/MANUAL/html/Transforms.html#Transforms-TransformOr you can use grids or guides, typically along with snapping.
http://tavmjong.free.fr/INKSCAPE/MANUAL/html/Snapping.html"equal between all the edges of the main design multiple times" I didn't watch the 2nd video yet, but I assume it explains how to use Offsets. Path menu > Inset, Outset, Dynamic Offset, Linked Offset. For this, I would probably use Dynamic Offset or Linked Offset. For Dynamic Offset:
1 - draw the first outline, and edit until it's perfect
2 - duplicate
3 - Path menu > Dynamic Offset
4 - grab that tiny diamond shaped handle which appears at the top-most point of the path, and drag (upwards for outset, inwards for inset)
5 - I wish the developers could make this step a little smoother, but for now, you need to open Edit menu > XML Editor
5a - Make sure the new inset/outset line is selected, and it will be highlighted in the XML Editor
5b - On the right section of the XML Editor, locate "inkscape:radius" and click on it
5c - Now look in the box below and edit the value to whatever specific amount you want for the space between offsets
5d - After you edit the number, click the Set button
6 - Repeat 2 through 5d, for all the offset paths that you need.
If you're sending this to a digital cutter, you'll need to select all the offset paths, and do Path menu > Object to Path. But if you guide the saw by hand, you won't need to do that.
Now, having said All that, and if you've been following along on your Inkscape canvas, and depending on how acute those curves are, and the overall size, you may notice that the offset paths become less and less faithful to the original, by the time you get to the last one. So it's possible you'll want to use a different technique.
Instead of offset paths, you might want to just duplicate the original path, and scale it. You can use the W and H fields of the Selection tool control bar, to make sure they are all the right size. Then you can use Object menu > Align and Distribute to make sure they are all centered relative to each other. Or the previously mentioned Transform dialog would work too, and with that, you won't have to center them to each other (because using that dialog keeps them centered). So for example, maybe you want them all to be 100 px in width and height larger or smaller than the last.
On the Home tab of this website, are loads and loads of tutorials for using Inkscape. I don't think any of them are about woodworking, though.